NEW YORK - Britney Spears. She's so easy to make fun of. Even her song titles
conspire to mock her: "Oops, She Did It Again!" But the latest headlines about
America's most maligned mother are evoking a new sentiment from fellow moms.
Almost tripped and dropped a baby?
PLEASE, they're saying. What mom hasn't? Give the girl a break!
When little Sean Preston entered the world last September, the blessed event
only intensified Spears' fame, as celebrity births do nowadays. But unlike, say,
Angelina Jolie or Gwyneth Paltrow, Spears had a way of appearing maternally
challenged. First it was the sight of baby on Mom's lap in the driver's seat.
(OK, that was bad.) Then, the accidental tumble as he was lifted off a high
chair. Next, the car seat facing the wrong way in the convertible.
Not good, the celebrity mommy patrol said. We'd never do that.
Until ... the almost-baby-dropping incident.
Suddenly- and there's nothing scientific about any of this, mind you
-but suddenly, it seems fellow moms are doing something a bit surprising:
defending Britney.
"The woman just can't get a break!" says Lenna Janick, a mother of two in
Ijamsville, Md. "I mean, I'm not gonna say that I love her. I don't know if
she's a good mother or not. But she's human."
And as all moms know, "baby bobbles" happen all the time. Luckily, says
Janick, news outlets weren't watching when she walked into a door years ago
holding baby son Timmy, whose head hit the door jamb. Her other son, Alex, once
fell off the bed as a baby. (Both are fine.)
The media also mysteriously missed the moment when Stacey Thaler, an actuary
in New York, was sitting on the edge of the tub holding her 2-year-old son and
fell in, with the toddler.
"If someone was watching me 24/7, I'm sure they would find any number of
things I've done that would be questionable," Thaler says. "Almost dropped my
kids? Definitely. Raising kids is hard - no one can really stand in
judgment unless they're much closer to the situation."
Thousands of mothers apparently agree. This weekend, the Web site
parenting.com asked readers whether the media "has gone too far in its portrayal
of Britney Spears as a bad mom." In a figure that surprised the editors, almost
10,000 people answered. The results: 75 percent said yes, 25 percent no.
"I think this last incident is the tipping point," says Janet Chan, editor in
chief of Parenting magazine. "I'm not sure this means Britney Spears will be in
every mom's Hall of Fame. But this one caused them to say, 'Hey, now we're
picking on her.'"
The celebrity magazine US Weekly sensed a similar reaction. The photo of
Spears nearly tripping (for the record, her very long jeans appeared to get
caught in her espadrilles) elicited an unusually strong response on the
magazine's blog, says editor Janice Min. Out of 700 responses, 60 percent were
pro-Britney, she says.
"Anyone who has babies knows there are always near-misses," Min says. The
problem with Spears, Min says, is that she got herself into multiple situations
that didn't look good.
"Any one incident alone would not merit that much attention," she says. "But
in the aggregate, they paint a picture that meets expectations the public
already has." In other words, that Britney's a bad mom.
None of the mothers interviewed for this piece deny that Spears has shown
questionable judgment, at best. But many noted that motherhood has long been
subject to changing standards. Was it so long ago, for example, that kids roamed
free in the car, unbelted? How long have kiddie bike helmets been around?
Some also noted that there's a silver lining to the various compromising
photos of Spears: at least they show she's WITH the baby.
"Look, there are probably a number of celebrities who would have someone else
caring for their baby while they went gallivanting around doing whatever,"
Thaler says. "So maybe we should give her credit for wanting to be with him so
much."
So Britney, things may be looking up, just in time for your next baby. Your
latest misstep - the one that almost had you and Sean sprawled on the
ground - may have been a blessing in disguise.
"It may just be that it took tripping on the curb," Chan says, "for Britney
to become part of the Mommy Club."