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Reasons for not being friends with ex boyfriend or girlfriend

By ll利 ( Updated: 2014-06-18 17:28

When men and women get into relationships they usually talk badly about their past partners. Generally they put all blame of the break up on him/her even if it is not that way. However, the way a man/woman may talk about an Ex is also an indication how he/she would treat you if you end up as an Ex. Bad mouthing and disrespect towards someone is not a good sign.

If your Ex is dating someone, that person also may view you as a negative person in your Ex’s life. If you're still friends with your Ex, it may affect the chances of the Ex also in finding a new and lasting relationship. And moreover, how can an Ex who has known so many intimate things about you, be “just a friend?”

As you can see there is more harm than good in being friends with an Ex if you want to move on with your life. So let the Exes be confined to the past only.

Why should you not go back to an Ex?

I have known people who are desperate to get back to their Ex even when it was a toxic relationships. Personally, I don’t think it is wise to go back to an Ex. Reconciliation with an Ex out of desperation often ends up with more pain than the first time. As the saying goes, “Once broken, it can never be the same again.” After all, there was a reason you broke up in the first place. If there are still unresolved issues, there is no hope of the relationship working out. If the original break up was based on trust issues, the chances are it may end up in hurt again. Life is too short to waste on living in the hope that some miracle would happen and things would be the same as when you started the relationship. It is better to cut your losses and move on with your life. Who knows, maybe you have a better life ahead.

To move on with life it is important that you dispose of all relationship clutter from your life. Everything that reminds you of your Ex has to be cleared to make yourself ready to welcome a new partner to your life. Remember that by taking an Ex back you would be blocking your chances of attracting someone better who would treat you the way you deserve to be treated. So think again before you decide to rekinde an old flame.

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