Prenup is perfect way to test love

I'm an expat divorcee in my mid-50s. I've lived in Beijing for about three years and have been dating a Chinese girl in her late 20s for the past 18 months. She's beautiful and I love her, but my grown up daughters back home hated her when they met and keep telling me she's only after my money. They've put doubt in my mind. How do I find out if they are right?

Two syllables: prenup. If you see marriage in your future, draw up a prenuptial agreement stating how the assets will be split in case of a divorce and have her sign it. Alternatively, you could let it slip that you plan to leave the bulk of your worldly goods to your daughters as an inheritance. Regardless of whether or not you'd stick to it, in the short term, if she loves you for your soul and not your salary she'll stay with you for richer or poorer. The other thing is May-December relationships mainly work because the older partner can provide substantial financial security to the other. No doubt her attraction for you is her youth. Ask yourself, are you ready to start a new family? With your experience as a husband and a divorcee, are you willing to commit to a partner whose stages in life are and will be very different than yours? Is she?

I really like a girl at work but I hear inter-office relationships are a real no-no in China. I'm American and in my 40s. The girl is a younger Chinese colleague. She's given me some signals that she likes me too. Should I ask her on a date? If so, how do I go about it?