How to judge others (and yourself) less

I've secretly despised a life coach who is younger than me for a long time. She pops up in my feed with her smiley face and optimistic quotes, and I quietly judge her. My silent musings include, "She comes from a rich family - she doesn't know real struggle!" and "She must be a fraud. Why can't anyone else see it?"

Until I met her at a party recently and she was ... lovely. Sincere. Honest. Kind. It was an unexpected surprise to have months of my own judgment backfire in my face like that. And it made me think: What else might I be wrong about? And more importantly, where is this judgment coming from?

To get some answers, I started digging into an advanced copy of Gabby Bernstein's latest book, Judgment Detox. Bernstein writes, "When we judge others, we're really judging a disowned part of our own shadow... Often other people trigger our wounds. We judge them when this happens instead of accepting that the discomfort is really about us."