Be a busy bee and find your own fun

I moved to Beijing from the United States when my husband got a job here. I'm 38 and he's 42. He's having a great time at work, and has started staying out more often drinking with his new buddies. I'm struggling to adapt and often feel lonely here, but I don't want to ruin his fun and complain. What should I do?

- Amanda, via e-mail

Communication is the key to a solid marriage. Tell him you're happy he's enjoying work and has made friends. At the same time, agree to a regular date night.