We are smart, single, happy women

China's knack for grouping socially similar people has grown recently with the arrival of the "3S lady". Referring to "single", "seventies" and "stuck", the phrase identifies independent and educated women, around the expected age of marriage but who are still single. They are too easily blamed for the phenomenon. But I have to disagree.

First, I find fault in the notion that well-educated, well-paid and independent single women have excessively high requirements for their Mr Rights. I have a friend who holds a master's degree, works for a famous IT company and has a great personality.

But she has been rejected twice because the men in her life believed she was too good for them. Should she be blamed because those guys lack confidence?