Can your favorite hues reveal the path to true love and happiness?
Despite two marriages, I've spent 80 percent of my life in search of the
perfect man. And that's why I've got a serious case of dating fatigue. I just
want Mr. Right, heart in hand, delivered to my door by Saturday night.
That won't happen, of course, but I'm always on the lookout for practical
shortcuts to love. So when The Dewey Color System for Relationships (Three
Rivers Press, 2005; $14) by Dewey Sadka crossed my desk, I decided to give it a
The simple 5-minute color-preference test ranks your most- and least-favorite
picks within four categories to reveal the real you, not who you imagine
yourself to be. Sadka says your subconscious is drawn to colors that correspond
to specific traits and passions, and not to those reflecting issues you tend to
avoid. Choosing colors maps your emotional landscape which, he says, can be
decoded and used to navigate emotional barriers and conflicts in any
Happy couple by color
Sadka created this mini-version of
his test to help make yours a better twosome. Choose your favorite color from
each category and have your mate do the same. Then compare your answers, and
talk over changes that could make your relationship its happiest.
If these are your choices: Personal freedom is the
key to happiness. Beware the relationship with too many restrictions.
these are your mate's: He's happiest when you give him unlimited support and
allow him to express his feelings without judging them.
Yours: Keeping things fresh and new makes you happy, so nix
the mundane home life or repetitive job.
Your mate's: Yellow-purple mates
need lots of escapades that create a fun-filled life.
Yours: Discovering exciting, inventive things to do makes
you happy. Routines bore you.
Your mate's: Loves stimulating situations and
events, so provide a steady diet of unexpected adventures.
Yours: Happiness is feeling understood, so voice your needs.
Your mate¡¯s: Find the meaning in his tone and words, and he'll be happy.
Yours: To be happy, accept that some desires aren't worth
having. Fantasy is fun, but appreciate what you have.
Your mate's: He¡¯s
happy when guided by concrete facts, not emotions. Keep him grounded so his
frustrations turn to joy.
Yours: Wide-ranging conversation makes you happy. Challenging
social situations increase your self-confidence.
Your mate's: Banish boredom;
otherwise, he feels frustrated, depleted, even depressed.
Yours: Respect for helping others makes you happy. Personal
achievements strengthen your self-image.
Your mate's: Listening to his tough,
practical advice makes him happy. He's all about making your life together work.
Yours: You're happiest when you're in control.
Let him set the priorities, and you'll receive powerful strategies and
Yours: To be happy, be yourself. A few friends, small
gatherings, and you stand out.
Your mate's: He¡¯s happiest knowing you love
his true self, warts and all.