Postgraduate outlines her conditions for marital bliss

Feng, a 24-year-old graduate student, said she wants to get married within the next 10 years.

Marriage is an indispensable phase in the development of romantic relationships, according to the student at Beijing Foreign Studies University.

"I think the institution of marriage can drive a healthy and stable relationship as a couple moves from the early stage of intense love to everyday stability," said Feng, who preferred to only give her last name.

Her parents are both older than 70, and their intimacy and mutual dependence have impressed her a lot. "They are very worried about each other whenever one of them gets sick. They spend a lot of time with each other, and always care about each other's physical and emotional status," she said.

"In choosing a husband, I will consider whether he truly loves me, whether he will be faithful and whether he will be ready for potential challenges in our lives."

Feng's boyfriend is a doctoral student in civil engineering. "We share similar opinions about many things," she said.

In late 2020, Feng had some problems with her immune system. "I was living alone in a rented apartment in Beijing. He reminded me to take medicine, accompanied me to the hospital and reassured me whenever I felt anxious," she said.

Because of the COVID-19 epidemic, Feng said their relationship is frequently a long-distance one.

"When a problem arises, such as if one of us fails to respond to messages quickly, we discuss it directly and strive to find ways to spend time together," she said.

Feng said that about a year ago, she was looking to get married as soon as she graduated.

"But I gradually realized that marriage would only compound the pressure if I was not mature enough," she said.

"I expect to tackle difficulties in life together with my partner instead of waiting for someone else to rid me of my troubles."

Feng is scheduled to graduate next year. "My attitude toward marriage might change after I leave campus and enter society," she said.

With regard to having children, Feng said she would only do so if her family was financially secure and she would have the time and energy to care for a child.

"My physical condition, my work status and supportive policies provided by the authorities will all affect my decision," she said.

Liu Xi contributed to this story.